On February 10, 2023, our mother was relieved of the pain and suffering that she has long endured. Born January 19, 1950, to Earl and Elfie Stauffer in Salt Lake City Utah, she attended Granite High School, she married Steve R. Kunz on February 18th, 1967, together they had three children; Kim Kunz Fratto (Patrick), Steven Earl Kunz (Kelley), Dustin Reese Kunz, they were later divorced. Mom married Jerry Asmus on May 6, 1978, and he remained her constant companion and caregiver to the end.
Mom was a force of nature; she had a great sense of humor without a filter. She was crazy fun, and full of spit and vinegar. She loved the outdoors. In her early years, she spent a lot of time with her horse, Lingo, who loved only her. Her favorite place was at the lake. She was active until she couldn’t be and enjoyed skiing, boating, fishing, hiking, scuba diving, snorkeling, traveling, bowling, gambling in Mesquite, and her grandchildren. She would often encourage them to question authority and push boundaries, especially the ones their parents had set for them, she got a kick out of it, particularly when we didn’t. Mom didn’t like complaining or complainers, she would often say, “it’s a long way from your heart”, which was code for, “stop complaining, you’ll live!”
Mom was diagnosed with MS at the age of 39, but refused to accept the limitations of the disease, and instead, live her life to the fullest. She persevered until the disease progressed, and she developed vascular dementia, the combination of the two left her immobile and unable to communicate effectively, but it did not stop her. She refused to concede until the bitter end, for mom, it was “a long way from her heart”, and her heart refused to quit.
Mom worked hard, played harder, and enjoyed life. She spent many years in the mortgage industry and took pride in helping people. She taught us to work hard and set the best example she could with the skills she had and the hand she was dealt. She was the rebellious child, the unconventional mother, the Disneyland grandma, the favorite aunt, and the most generous person; money and possessions were something that she knew she wasn’t taking with her, and she would share them willingly. Growing up, it was common for friends, family, or anyone in need to find shelter in our home.
Our mom taught us how to be strong, brave, and bold, she taught us how to think critically, how to give, how to love and how to let go! At her request, no services will be held, she donated her body to science in the hopes of helping to find a cure for her illness and help others. Instead of sending flowers, she wanted people to donate to their favorite charity or pay it forward even if it meant paying it forward to yourself.
“When I come to the end of the road and the sun has set for me,
I want no rites in a gloom filled room, why cry for a soul set free!
Miss me a little, but not for long, and not with your head hung low,
Remember the love and laughter we shared, miss me but let me go!”
We love you Momma. Enjoy your next adventure, give-em hell!
Survived by her husband Jerry, her children, nine grandchildren and nine great-grandchildren, sister Barbara Moore, brother Steven Stauffer (Nadine), sister-in-law Carolyn Stauffer. Preceded in death by her parents, brothers Eddie and Robert.
We would like to give a special thanks to her personal aide Sonia and the Hospice staff who helped us care so lovingly for our mother and keep her in her home. Liz, Kelly, Kandalee and Kaylissa, we could not have done it without you.
Arrangements are made under the direction of Spilsbury Mortuary, 110 S Bluff Street, St. George, Utah. 435-673-2454. Family and friends are invited to leave a memory on Sheri’s obituary page at
www.spilsburymortuary.com